People have it backwards teaching “marriage prep” classes. I think I could have used a wedding prep class. I had no idea how many things there were to do in order to get ready for a wedding. I mean, I knew it was a big event, but I had no idea about all of the little details.
I was surprised as we started planning to learn that there is a whole wedding culture. There are a billion little aspects to it that I would have never thought of, and some that, as far as I know, I’ve never even heard of.
One of these is a wedding favor. That was a mystery to me. Another is the whole wedding registry. I mean, I knew that people registered for gifts, but it seems like there are tons of unspoken rules about it, about where and when for what people are supposed to register. It’s not the same as telling Santa what you want for Christmas.
And probably the most mind-boggling is all of the traditions about who pays for what. Did you know that there’s a “rehearsal dinner” that the groom’s family puts on for the wedding party? I have no idea why it’s called that, because apparently it’s not a rehearsal of anything. Also, there’s this whole thing about how you’re supposed to split up the bill for the flowers. Who came up with this stuff?
And, as if it wasn’t confusing enough, there’s several different versions of each tradition, so everyone thinks that there’s a certain way that it’s supposed to be done, even though they might have different stories about the way it’s supposed to be (and no one has any idea about where those ideas came from.)
It’s like learning about Greek mythology all over again.