Marriage adjustment

Kelly and I are married now.

I know that it hasn’t been that long, and it’s all still new to me, but I am surprised at how much has changed since we’ve been married: Nothing.

Ok, well, maybe “nothing” is a bit of an exaggeration, but I am surprised at how normal it feels. Every now and then we get a shock by reminding ourselves that we’re married. It’s like we need to remind ourselves that this is something new and strange for us.

The biggest change in our lives is vocabulary. I constantly catch myself referring to Kelly as my “girlfriend” (or to myself as her “boyfriend”), only to remember (or to be reminded) that we have new words that we’re supposed to use now.

Other than the words, life is going on for us the same as it had before: We were already completely committed to each other, and we were already used to spending all of our time with each other. We heard Bob Millet say at a fireside that marriage doesn’t change the internal status of the couple, but rather changes their status to others. I probably didn’t explain that well, but it makes sense to me.

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